Hoovering includes a constant need for the narcissist to consume your attention, particularly if you are involved in a situation in which you can easily call him out on lying. He needs to reassure himself that you two are “okay” and you will remain silent no matter what. So, he will go to great lengths […]
The Journey To Acceptance
Let’s talk a little about acceptance. As we release ourselves from the clutches of narcissistic abuse and move into this new realm of hope and opportunity, unfortunately, we are also hit with some negative emotions, such as disappointment or depression, perhaps anxiety about the future. Just when we think we can truly “live again”, we […]
Secret Keeping – What You Don’t Know CAN Hurt You
Let’s talk a little about secrecy and the narcissist’s need to maintain secrets about everything. Two very common and interrelated traits of classic narcissists are their need to maintain control by pushing boundaries and rule breaking. Individuals who engage in this type of shady behavior obviously need to be good secret keepers. As far as […]