Remember how that narc you were fortunate enough to leave behind treated others who he felt were somehow beneath him? Do you recall how he responded to the waiter who he felt a mistake with his order or the receptionist when the doctor was taking too long? How did he treat your child’s teacher after an average grade was brought home? Narcissists are really good at charming those who they want to charm. They’re also really good at treating those they feel are inferior like crap. If your child isn’t doing well in school, it’s clearly the fault of her teacher. If the doctor is taking too long, it has to be the receptionist’s fault. She probably forgot to let him know you’re waiting. If the kitchen messes up your order, it has to be the waiter’s fault because he obviously wrote it down wrong.
You see, in situation’s where most people wouldn’t be so quick to judge or would able to see these individuals are not at fault, narcissists are quick to point the finger. All of these individuals provide a service and if the service isn’t acceptable to the narcissist, someone must be punished. No matter what they do to fix it, even if it’s clearly not their fault, it’s won’t good enough. The narc will walk out disgusted.
Narcissists tend to take full advantage of those deemed inferior and especially those inadvertently forced into the position of providing their services to the narcissist. Narcs jump at the chance for exploitation. Anything to look superior and remain in control.
Not only is it important to observe whether the person you’re with is treating those in service positions fairly, it’s also important to pay attention to how this person talks about others to you. If they are constantly belittling everyone else behind their back, chances are, your turn is up next. The patterns are always the same, so beware the warning signs and trust your intuition.