How to Effectively Heal from Narcissistic Abuse

I’ve been inspired

… to put together a series on how to effectively heal from narcissistic abuse. And, oh, can I just say how wonderful it feels once you’re finally able to think with a clear mind and be open to divine guidance?! It’s truly amazing, the signs we’re given on a daily basis. We just need to open ourselves to receiving them and living life to the fullest!

This is a twelve-step guide since I absolutely believe in the powers of twelve-step healing. Each portion provides a tip that is singularly helpful, and when taken in conjunction with others, becomes even more powerful. The purpose of the guide is to jump-start your journey back to self and toward genuine inner peace.

Always remember

Everything you’ve been told about what you should do to heal that seems trivial, ISN’T. And, everything you believe you’ll never have time for, YOU DO. It’s all about remembering the law of attraction. Waking up every morning reciting inwardly positive affirmations. Making a point to stay centered throughout the day. Giving thanks when you lye down again each night. It sounds corny! It sounds crazy! But, I promise, if you begin to make positive thinking a priority, you will attract more positivity into your life. It really is that simple. In a far too complex world, we’ve forgotten simplicity.

I have lived a hard life. I have had my fair share of difficulties. And, I have handled tough situations HORRIBLY. I have forgotten myself along the way a time or two and led myself onto a path of pain-numbing self-destruction. I have chosen to suppress pain, rather than constructively face it. It’s only when I took the time to regain my health and make a point to self-reflect that I found true peace, happiness, and confidence again.

Oftentimes, we have no control over unfair situations in our lives. And, the bottom line is, you will never be able to control the actions of another person — never. You cannot fix another person. You cannot make him or her see they’re in the wrong. The only thing you’ll ever have control over is yourself. Period. And, the way you handle the toxicity. You must make a conscious effort to choose self-improvement. Rather than internalizing the pain this person unloads onto you and quietly living in misery, choosing to carry its weight, make a pact with yourself to rise above it.

We do not always lose ourselves due to difficult obstacles presented to us, either. Sometimes we simply lose ourselves because we believe we’re too busy or too focused on the needs of others, children maybe, to remember our own needs. We choose to put ourselves last. And, stress can do a number on one’s health. However, stress is also a necessary part of life. Sorry, Charlie, it’s not going anywhere. Take a step back and decide on a very conscious level what you’re going to do to improve its effects.

Interestingly, because we live in a world of constant motion, we often remain lost even in the quiet moments once we’ve let stress run our lives and it’s become second nature to constantly be on the go. Have you ever had time to yourself, maybe just a few minutes, and you instantly discover you’re bored or immediately thinking about things you can do to fill the space? This is a clear sign that self-reflection has been put by the wayside for far too long.

Addicts and alcoholics will often turn to their drug of choice in these moments because they become too uncomfortable and anxiety builds. They believe they are unable to effectively quiet their minds and enjoy the space without ingesting a relaxer, and they’ve lost their bodies’ natural ability to self-soothe.

In this series, we discuss simple, yet powerful methods to revitalize self-assuredness, peace, and the power to easily combat future mishaps. Once we take care of our physical, mental and emotional health through holistic healing, we recover from physical, mental and emotional sickness quicker, we respond to others more empathetically, and we simply feel better about ourselves and the impact we’re leaving.

Jump-start your journey

How to Effectively Heal from Narcissistic Abuse

Enjoy!