One could argue that how we spend our time defines who we are. There are a few hours each day that we need to use to tend to daily obligations, such as work, family, and sleep. And, the rest is up to us. Even those standing ‘obligations’ are choices we’ve made, right? We choose our […]
Reframing: Becoming Helpers by Understanding How Others View Us
Work on reframing any time you’re naturally inclined to choose negativity. Remember, some days are better, some days are worse; look for the blessing rather than the curse. In an effort to gain self-awareness and center ourselves before helping others, it is important to learn to reframe the way we’ve traditionally processed our feelings. By […]
Pulled from the Wreckage – Now What? Practice Saying “Thank You.”
Sometimes, when we’ve been put through the ringer and make it to the other side, we forget to remember to thank those who helped to pull us from the wreckage. This is to be expected, right? It’s human nature to be egocentric and become so focused on our own trials and tribulations, it’s difficult to […]
Toxic Relationships: Stop Justifying Away Emotional Hell and Heartbreak
So, how do you know that a relationship has become toxic? How much is enough? When should you walk away? Everyone is different. Every situation is different. Everyone has a unique set of values, morals, ideologies and a certain tolerance threshold that makes up one’s individual identity. Therefore, in considering when it’s appropriate to leave […]
A Shoulder to Lean On: The Importance of a Support System
When you’re in a relationship with a pathological narcissist it may be extremely difficult to maintain close ties with your friends and family members. This is because your captor will stop at nothing to ensure total dependence, which includes complete isolation from the influence of others. It may also be difficult to seek advice from […]
When Abuse Gets Physical: Spotting Signs of a Battered Woman
Narcissistic abusers not only expect their victims to comply with their sadistic demands, they expect them to cover for them at all times, at all costs. If there’s any reason to believe that a victim won’t abide by these rules, they’ll employ more overt, physical, tactics meant to ensure their victims will remain subservient. And, […]