Being caught in a toxic web spun by a skilled narcissist is extremely anxiety-provoking on multiple levels. For one, the victim lives in constant fear of being demeaned by the narcissist or disappointing him. They also feel trapped, worrying about what would happen if they tried to leave while at the same time worrying about what will happen if they stay. This anxiety eventually infiltrates into many facets of the person’s life, contributing to feelings of helplessness and a desire to isolate. Because it impacts the person so fully, there are many evident signs that one is suffering from abuse-induced anxiety.
Physically, eating and sleeping habits become affected by the constant stress both the mind and body is under, and a victim can become extremely ill. This can show up as stomach distress, including the development of ulcers, infections, nausea and vomiting and digestive issues. It can also appear in the form of chronic aches and pains, including migraines or back and shoulder tension. One may feel lethargic, sluggish, exhausted all the time but unable to get a sound night’s sleep due to worsening hypervigilance.
Psychologically, anxiety can lead to extreme paranoia, worry, and a feeling of impending doom, all of which can manifest in an elevated heart rate, chest pains, a feeling of being ‘disconnected’ from one’s body, an inability to catch one’s breath and many more unsettling symptoms.
Oftentimes, if finally able to break free, an individual will suffer from anxiety indefinitely in the form of post-traumatic stress disorder. This can be treated in therapy and by practicing at-home techniques to ease symptoms, but the lasting effects on the whole person are undeniable. Some of the most common signs of PTSD include re-experiencing, avoidance and hypervigilance. Even when the direct threat has ceased, it still feels ever-present, causing victims to continually relive trauma, avoid people, places, or things tied to it, and endure a prolonged heightened state of fear.
The physical and psychological effects of narcissistic abuse are irrefutable. So much so they have been termed Narcissistic Victim Syndrome (NVS). A form of PTSD, NVS must be treated in order for the victim to release herself from the trauma-inflicted mental prison that continues to linger after escape. There are coping mechanisms that can be highly effective and reduce symptoms. Remember, you are not alone. Many others have been targeted by seasoned narcissists. Don’t be afraid to seek professional help to heal.