Depression can be avery tough, yet necessary, stage of the grieving process. It’s essential because it’s the first stage in which the victim is made to face the underlying emotions the first three stages have protected them from and this is where real work can be done to heal the internal self. Yet, it can be painful, manifesting in unpleasant physical, mental, and emotional symptoms. Some of the most common symptoms of severe depression include:
Alterations in mood, including anxiety, guilt, hopelessness, loss of interest in once pleasurable activities, mood swings, or sadness;
Maladaptive behaviors including agitation, excessive crying, irritability, restlessness, or social withdrawal;
Sleep disturbances including excessive sleep, insomnia, or intermittently awakening throughout the night in addition to nightmares;
Physical changes such as excessive hunger or loss of appetite, manic symptoms or fatigue, or weight gain or loss;
Cognitive problems including “brain fog,” lack of concentration, overanalyzing, lethargy, or suicidal thoughts.
In the depression stage, victims tend to isolate from others in order to fully process the loss and the icky feelings that are now bubbling to the surface. It can be very overwhelming, leaving one feeling foggy, heavy, and confused. You may not feel like yourself and, therefore, believe it’s safe to disengage with the world “until this gets sorted out.” The fourth stage is where many grievers turn to grief therapists to help them manage symptoms. It’s also the stage in which many victims reach back out to the lost partner only to understand down the road how detrimental this decision truly is.
You’ve probably heard the term “there’s a light at the end of the tunnel” or “this too shall pass.” This clearly defines why it’s necessary to live the fourth stage of the grieving process and what’s to come if one is able to endure this painful period.