There are many different types of pathological narcissists. That’s right – there’s not just one or two ways this dangerous personality presents. There are a multitude of methods used by narcissists to assert and maintain control, and there are subtypes that help to define which kind of narcissist you are dealing with. Let’s take a closer look.
Grandiose. A grandiose narcissist, also called a somatic narcissist, is the “textbook narc,” the one you’ve probably read about the most. Because much of the published literature and resources are focused on this presentation, understanding if you are dealing with a narc who presents differently can be confusing. This is because not all narcissists are primarily concerned with their outward appearance, career and bank account and ensuring they are the center of attention at all times, like the grandiose type is. Yes, these are typical features. However, only the grandiose type will flaunt these things to the fullest extent. They are the flashy, boisterous, arrogant, and good-looking narcs who love to gaslight their victims into believing they will remain faithful in relationships but never do. Like other types, they only care about ingratiating themselves and view those in their intimate space as supply. The reason that much of the focus is on this type could stem from the original story of Narcissus who was obsessed with his image in the water – so much so it led to his demise.
Covert. Covert narcissists may be even more common than grandiose. These are the narcs who like to do their bidding behind the scenes, making sure to lie, cheat and steal away from the public eye. Covert narcissists may not be as physically appealing as the somatic type, but that doesn’t cramp their style. They still enjoy “winning” at all costs and make sure to use underhanded tactics to keep up the façade. And, they tend to be gifted public speakers, nevertheless, with higher than average intelligence and high-paying careers. This type of narcissist is primarily focused on the accumulation of wealth and prized possessions – including “trophy” partners. Everything in the narc’s life is considered a possession he feels entitled to have and he uses these possessions to maintain a sense of superiority. He will use a wide range of power and control tactics, including sabotaging the competition if necessary. Because coverts are highly intelligent, they also tend to be especially adept at technology and able to use this to their advantage.
Communal. Communal narcissists love to use others to do their bidding, and those the narcissist solicits to do so are commonly called their “flying monkeys.” These individuals are in the narcissist’s corner, and he’ll go to great lengths to keep them there. We tend to see communal narcissism play out in corporate settings in which the narc holds a high-level position with a certain degree of authority. He may have many direct reports and even a board of other executives to contend with, all of whom he will exert his power over.
Malignant. Malignant narcissists are considered the most dangerous, primarily because they possess traits evident in the other three subtypes. They are both good-looking and intelligent, like the somatic, and able to draw in others like the covert and communal types. A historic example of a malignant narcissist would be Adolph Hitler, using his authority, charm and charisma to brainwash the masses. Malignants tend to hold high-paying, important positions in their careers as well as in other areas of life. They may be a decision-maker for community activities and in other opportunities that allow the narc to exercise his power. The malignant narcissist will do anything and everything to maintain this self-perceived superiority and entitlement, including using tactics such as fear, manipulation, and financial control.
It can be argued that there are even more subtypes of pathological narcissism. However, we will focus on these common presentations in the weeks to come. Understanding the pathology behind what makes a dangerous narcissist tick will help you determine if you need to cut the cord with a toxic individual in your life once and for all. Knowledge is power.