Much of a person’s anxiety is derived from learning new things. However, life forces us to change directions often, doesn’t it? Just when we get comfortable where we are, we’re often presented with a new obstacle we need to overcome. We may lose our job and need to return to school to learn a new skill. We may be completely ready to become a parent, but realize that we need medical assistance to become pregnant. There are endless scenarios beyond our control which can sometimes seem never-ending. And yet, we realize we are equipped to handle these struggles as we’re forced to utilize our own mental and physical capabilities to work through them.
We can get all up in our heads about our inability to accomplish a new task. We tend to undermine our talents and assume the worst, which can lead to depression and stagnation. On the flip side, once we tackle a challenge, whether forced or otherwise, we often realize it really wasn’t so bad. We were able to pull together all of our physical and mental resources and we got it done. On to the next! “This too shall pass” after all.
Remember this when deciding to leave a narcissist. It’s the same as any other challenge life presents that initially makes us tense up with anxiety and feel overwhelmed. It can be extremely difficult to leave, but it’s not impossible, and the first step is simply believing we can. We cannot allow ourselves to wallow in a sea of depression, which affects our well-being on every level. We know this will only make matters worse. We are already facing dangerous opposition. We cannot allow ourselves to become our own worst enemies, especially by giving up and self-medicating away emotional anguish.
Release Yourself!
The narcissist has done everything he can to wear us down, to make us believe we aren’t worth it, that we can’t do anything on our own. So, it’s not surprising we feel we can’t trust our ability to escape. This is all part of our captor’s plan to keep us under lock and key. He doesn’t want us to realize we can. But, truth is, WE CAN!
Recite affirmations and focus your energy on tangible tasks that need to be accomplished to set the wheels in motion. Remember everything you’ve accomplished thus far – a job, family, all the hats you likely wear. How did you acquire the things you have? Not by standing back and waiting for these things to come to you. Life doesn’t work that way. God helps those who help themselves. Remember Philippians 4:13 and summon the courage to access all that you are so your mind, body and soul can work in harmony to develop the plan needed to release the relationship and move forward.
Drown out the narcissist’s words meant to convince you that you cannot stand on your own two feet. You came into the world that way, and there was likely a period of time before you encountered your captor in which you succeeded independently. Meditate and reflect, remember this person inside. She’s still in there. She’s just been muted temporarily. Find her again and believe in her.
Your Life Depends on It
Leaving may just be one of the most important challenges you’re ever faced with. But, think of how you’ll feel once you’ve removed this detrimental negativity from your life and are able to breathe new life into your soul. You’ll feel whole again, fully restored. By accessing all that you are in order to get to this point, you’ll realize that you are nothing short of a miracle worker. You’ll feel empowered and stronger than ever. Nothing will stand in your way of happiness again.
Take the challenge – learn to be a survivor, not a victim. Release yourself from your own mental prison first, so you can free yourself from the physical prison you’re in. Victory can be yours!