Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward. You can only connect them looking backwards, so you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. – Steve Jobs When an individual is victimized by an abuser, this solicits a number of potential responses, a few more common than others. I have termed […]
The ‘Black Eyes’ of Narcissism
In reviewing some of the latest questions submitted to Quora regarding narcissists and NPD, I took note of one that asked, “Have you seen the black eyes of a narcissist?” I paused a moment and thought to myself, yes, anyone who has been a victim of narcissistic abuse knows about the “black eyes”. And, this […]
The Narcissist’s Pursuit of (False) Happiness
Pathological narcissism is derived from deep-seated shame. While there are hereditary factors, much of the sociopath behavior displayed by this behavioral disorder is propelled to the surface due to negative circumstances, particularly trauma. Once the chaos has subsided, the emotions felt are vanished into the recesses of the narcissist’s mind with the hope that they […]
My Way or The Highway: The Narcissist Will Devalue You
This is the philosophy of pathological narcissists. It’s all about them and fulfilling their wishes. A narcissist will devalue victims and sufferers are made to brave circumstances fundamentally against their morals and values – often times without even realizing it. To go against a narcissist’s wishes is to crack the perfect false persona he parades. […]