Narcissistic abusers not only expect their victims to comply with their sadistic demands, they expect them to cover for them at all times, at all costs. If there’s any reason to believe that a victim won’t abide by these rules, they’ll employ more overt, physical, tactics meant to ensure their victims will remain subservient. And, […]
The Idealize Stage: How to Steer Clear from Buyer’s Remorse
Idealize –Verb: regard or represent as perfect or better than in reality. Let’s focus a little more on the idealize stage. This is the first stage in a romantic partnership with an individual who has narcissistic personality disorder. It is very important to understand what happens in this stage. And, yet, most simply do not […]
What to Expect During Devalue and Discard
How far will pathological narcissists go in devalue and discard? Is there a certain threshold that, if reached, the narcissist will actually agree that enough is enough and finally leave a victim alone? The mind-numbing answer to this question is – it all depends. There are some factors that will influence a narcissist during these […]
The More We Know, The More We Grow: Leaving for Good
It goes without saying, perhaps, that abuse is difficult to talk about. Those that suffer behind closed doors oftentimes never voice their pain to others unless, or until, they were forced to. With narcissistic abuse, usually this occurs well into devalue, just prior to discard. The victim may have long been planning to leave, believes […]
10 Early Red Flags You Need to Run – NOW!
Here are the top ten early red flags you are in the relationship with a narcissist and need to run – fast. You’re always wrong. The way you fold the clothes, make a bed, load the dishwasher, your political views, religious views. It doesn’t matter what it is – you just can’t win. You’re in […]
You’re Ready to Leave, Now What?
Let’s touch on the steps that should be taken to leave a narcissist once you’re certain you’ve spent enough time developing an escape plan. This means you’ve determined exactly when and how you plan to leave and have told those you can confide in without having to worry about your partner finding out. Sometimes this […]